Sacred Oath
In Torah, an unexpected word reveals volumes. Here’s a riddle: Why did Avraham tell his servant, Eliezer, to put his hand under his thigh to take the sacred oath of finding the right wife for Isaac?
Reading from the Kabbalah masters, because of the mitzvah of circumcision, Avraham’s body was the most sacred physical object in his tent on which to make the vow. And what does that say about ourselves? That our body is sacred.
In Sufism we have a practice that reminds us and deepens our awareness of our sacred selves. On the breath we repeat the phrase – “This is not my body, this is the temple of G’d.” We will include this in our practices for the week.
Wellspring of the Heart
Self-denial is not renouncing things, it is denying the self. And the first lesson of self-denial is humility. Rivka’s actions at the well highlights her humility. When I teach Hebrew school to 4th and 5th graders, we delight in the story of Rivka. It is the perfect segue to discuss humility, generosity and loving kindness. Elementary age children brighten in the exploration of these Midot — qualities of the soul.
This entire parsha can be read as the rising above self-interest to serve. Our modern paradigm of self-development, self-confidence, self- is a mental construct that serves us well as children and teens. But as adults, it is time our to shift away from a hyper-focus on “personal growth” to one that blends in concern for community and connection.
You are invited to listen to a delightful podcast on how we can grow through service. Starting Tuesday, please listen to this inspiring conversation with Marilyn Saltzman: Cultivating Soul Qualities in the Service of Others.
More Subtle Clues
Another small detail that speaks volumes is the way that Rebecca offers water to the servant and then to the camels. Again from the Kabbalah masters – Rebecca lowered the pitcher so that when the servant drank, his face was not close to hers, which would have been immodest.
And now, the pitcher had become impure by a stranger drinking from it. But to spill the water on the ground could have been insulting. Pouring the water in the trough for the camels graciously handles that situation, benefiting all, including the thirsty camels.
Reflect on a time when you have shown the same gracious thoughtfulness, and perhaps one time when you could have chosen a more balanced way to interact.
Balance Creates Beauty
Avraham’s servant traveled with many camels laden with gifts. Pulling water from a well is hard, heavy labor. Why did Eliezer watch rather than help Rebecca? At first it seems unkind. However, since this was the key to finding the right wife for Isaac, the mother who was to continue the seed of a new people, the test had to be severe.
In the Tree of Life, Hesed balanced with its polarity, Gevurah, unifies in Netzah. Meaning Loving Kindness balanced with Discernment creates Beauty.
How does this inform us today? To find a mate to balance Isaac, and thus continue the covenant, Rivka has the humility and service that would continue Sara’s legacy to this very day. And she would be the mother of Jacob, seeing that his gentle qualities would benefit the lineage of the Jewish people. But that’s the next story.
For this week’s practices, we will seek to open the door to divine guidance. To continue our progression from the external to the internal, and ultimately, to bring the two together, in the marriage of heaven and earth. This is how we can be in tune with the Infinite and the rhythm of life. This beautiful, chaotic, ever changing life. This life right now, right in the heart of all the uncertainty and fear. And yes, joy and laughter. As we listen deeply to the sound of silence, we come to know humanity as one body united in the One Being.
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